Cay L. Crow, LPC, AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist

If you live closer to the Austin area, here are some therapy options: 

Sarah Janosik at www.sarahjanosik.com

Tiffany Garrett at www.tiffanygarrett.com

Seyma Calihman at www.seymacalihman.com

Violet Crown Counseling at www.violetcrowncounseling.com

In San Antonio, there are four other AASECT-Certified Sex Therapists:

Shannon Peck at www.shannonpecktherapy.com

Mark Steege at 524-9402

Royce Calhoun at www.roycecalhoun.com

Bren Manaugh at 677-2696

For a list of AASECT Certified Sexual Professionals in your area, go to www.aasect.org, click on For The Public and Locate a Professional.

Websites:

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom at www.ncsfreedom.org

Ambrosio's BDSM Website at www.evilmonk.org

Here is a list of books on sexuality divided by topic:

Abusive Relationships:

De Becker, Gavin. The Gift of Fear and other survival signals that protects us from violence. Dell Publishing,

Evans, Patricia. TheVerbally Abusive Relationship and Controlling People,

Gross, Linden & De Becker, Gavin. Surviving a Stalker: Everything you need to know to keep yourself safe. Marlowe & Co., 2000. Ms Gross is an expert on the stalking of everyday people. She started a website to keep people informed on how to protect themselves in the real world and on-line.

Nelson, Noelle, Ph.D. Dangerous Relationships: How to identify and respond to the seven warning signs of a troubled relationship. Perseus Publishing, Cambridge, Massachusetts, 1997. Using case studies, Dr. Nelson shows the step by step process of a developing dangerous relationship and tells you what to do at each point to protect yourself. Also includes a personalized safety plan for those needing to escape a violent situation.

Alternative Lifestyles:

Anapol, Dr. Deborah M. Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits: Secrets of Sustainable Intimate Relationships., IntiNet Resource Center, San Raphael, CA, 1997.

Gould, Terry. The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers. Firefly Books, 1999.

O’Neill, Nina and O’Neill, George. Open Marriage: A New Lifestyle for Couples. M. Evans & Co., 1984.

Aging and Sexuality:

Blank, Joani. Still doing it: Women & men over 60 write about their sexuality, Down There Press, San Francisco, 2000.

Block, Ph.D Joel with Susan Crain Bakos. Sex over 50. Parker Publishing, West

Leiblum, Sandra and Sachs, Judith. Getting the Sex You Want: A Woman’s Guide to Becoming Proud, Passionate and Pleased in Bed. Crown, 2002.

Sheiner, Marcy. Ripe Fruit: Well-Seasoned Erotica, Cleis Press, 2002.

Anal Pleasure:

Brent, Bill. The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men. Cleis Press.

Lotney, Karlyn. The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex, Cleis Press, 2000.

Morin, Jack. Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men and Women. Second Edition. Yes Press, San Francisco, 1986.

Taormino, Tristan. The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. Cleis Press, 1998.

Body Image:

Blank, Hanne. Big Big Love; A Sourcebook on Sex for People of Size and those who love them, Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA, 2000.

Blank, Hanne. Zaftig: Well Rounded Erotica, Cleis Press, San Francisco, 2001.

Blank, Joani. Femalia. Down There Press, 1993. This small but powerful picture book displays the female genitalia in all its glory; perfect for educating women about genital variation.

Kilbourne, Jean. Can't Buy My Love: How Advertising Changes the Way We Think and Feel, Touchstone, New York, 1999.

Phillips, Jan; Conheim, Cathy and Forester, Christine. A Waist is a Terrible Thing to Mind.

A Wake-up Call.  A collection of stories/poems/essays spawned by the Real Woman Project. www.realwomanproject.com.

Wolf, Naomi, The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty are used against women,

Wolf, Naomi, Promiscuities: The Secret Struggle for Womanhood, Ballantine Books, 1998.

Bondage, Discipline/Dominance, Sadism, Masochism (BDSM):

Brame, William. Different Loving: A Complete Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission. Villard, 1996.

Miller, Phillip; Devon, Molly;Granzig, William A. Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism.

Warren, John. The Loving Dominant. Greenery Press, 2000.

Wiseman, Jay. SM 101: A Realistic Introduction. Greenery Press, 1998.

Coupling:

Chia, Mantak and Maneewan. Abrams, Douglas and Rachel Carlton. The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: How Couples Can Dramatically Enhance Their Pleasure, Intimacy, and Health. HarperSan Francisco, 2000.

Schnarch, David. Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships. Owl Books, New York, 1997.

Schnarch, David. Resurrecting Sex: Resolving Sexual Problems and Rejuvenating Your Relationship. Harper Collins, New York, 2002.

Desire:

Cervenka, Kathleen A. In the Mood, Again: A Couple’s Guide to Reawakening Sexual Desire. New Harbinger, 2003.

McCarthy, Barry and Emily. Rekindling Desire: A Step-by-Step Program to Help Low-Sex and No-Sex Marriages. Brunner-Routledge. New York, 2003.

Fantasies:

Friday, Nancy. Forbidden Flowers: More Women’s Sexual Fantasies, Pocket Books, 1991.

Friday, Nancy,  My Secret Garden: Women’s Sexual Fantasies. Revised Edition. Pocket Books, 1998

Malz, Wendy. Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies. New World Library, 2001.

For Men:

Brent, Bill. The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men. Cleis Press, 2002.

Castleman, Michael. Great Sex: A Man’s Guide to the secret principles of total-body sex. Rodale Books, 2004.

Chia, Mantak and Arava, Douglas Abrams. The Multi-Orgasmic Man: How any man can experience multiple orgasms and dramatically enhance his sexual relationship. Harper, San Francisco, 1996.

Goldberg, Herb. The Hazards of Being Male: Surviving the Myth of Masculine Privilege. Wellness Institute, Inc. 1976.

Kerner, Ian. She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. Souvenir Press, 2004.

Lew, Mike. Victims No Longer: Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse. Harper Perennial. New York, 1988. This is the ONLY book available on male sexual abuse. The resources are certainly outdated but the information and case studies is up to date.

 Metz, Michael and McCarthy, Barry. Coping with Premature Ejaculation: How to Overcome PE, Please your Partner, and Have Great Sex. New Harbinger Publications, 2004.

Paget, Lou. How to give Her Absolute Pleasure: Totally Explicit Techniques every woman wants her man to know. Broadway Books, New York, 2000.

Weeks, Gerald R. Erectile Dysfunction: Integrating Couple Therapy, Sex Therapy, and Medical Treatment. W. W. Norton & Co., 2000.

Zilbergeld, Bernie. The New Male Sexuality, Revised Edition. Bantam, 1999.

G Spot:

Federation of Feminist Women's Health Centers. A New View of a Woman's Body. Feminist Health Press, Los Angeles, CA, 1991.

Ladas, Alice Kahn, Whipple, Bevery and Perry, John. The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries about Human Sexuality. Dell Publishing, 1982.

Sundahl, Deborah. Female Ejaculation and the G Spot. Hunter House Publishers, Alameda, CA

2003.

Zaviacic, Milan, M.D. The Human Female Prostate. Slovak Academic Press, 1999.

Gay and Lesbian:

Signorile, Michaelangelo. Outing Yourself: How to come Out as Lesbian or Gay to your Family, Friends, and Coworkers. Fireside Books, 1995.

General Reference:

Angier, Natalie. Woman: An Intimate Geography. Anchor, 2000. A fascinating journey through the biology and psyche of the human female. As Gloria Steinem said, “Anyone living in or near a female body should read this book.”

Chalker, Rebecca. The Clitoral Truth: The Secret World at Your Fingertips. Seven Stories Press.

New York, 2000. A fascinating and educational volume – a must read for men and women.

Ellison, Carol Rinkleib. Women’s Sexualities: Generation of Women Share Intimate Secrets of Sexual Self-Acceptance. New Harbinger, Oakland, CA, 2000. A compilation of research into women’s sexuality

Foley, Sallie, Kope, Sally, Sugrue, Dennis. Sex Matters for Women: A Complete Guide to Taking Care of your Sexual Self. Guilford Press, 2002

Hamilton, Terri. Skin Flutes & Velvet Gloves: A collection of Facts and Fancies, Legends and Oddities about the Body’s Private Parts. St. Martin’s Press, New York, 2002.

Joannides, Paul. Guide to Getting It On. Goofy Foot Press, 2004.

Moir, Anne and Jessel, David. Brain Sex: The Real Difference Between Men & Women. Delta Books, 1989.

Paget, Lou. How to be a Great Lover: Girlfriend to Girlfriend Totally Explicit Techniques that will blow his mind. Broadway Books, New York, 1999.

Stewart, Elizabeth G. The V Book: A doctor’s Guide to Complete Vulvovaginal Health. Bantam Books, 2002.

Taylor, Emma & Sharkey, Lorelei. The Big Bang: Nerve’s Guide to the New Sexual Universe. Penguin Books, 2003.

Taormino, Tristan. Pucker Up: A Hands-On Guide to Ecstatic Sex. HarperCollins, 2001.

Winks, Cathy and Semans, Anne. The New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex: Tips and Techniques from America’s Favorite Sex Toy Store, Second Edition, Cleis Press, San Francisco, 1997.

Intersex:

Bloom, Amy. Normal: Transsexual CEOs, Crossdressing Cops, and Hermaphrodites with Attitude. Random House, 2002.

Lesbian/Bisexual:

Jensen, Karol. Lesbian Epiphanies: Women Coming out in Later Life. Harrington Park Press, 1999.

Menasche, Ann. Leaving the Life: Lesbians, Ex-lesbians, and the Heterosexual Imperative. Only-women Press. London, 1999.

Newman, Felice. The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide For All of Us. Cleis Press, 1999.

Storr, M. Bisexuality: A critical reader. Routledge. New York, 1999.

Medical conditions affecting sexuality:

Elson, Jean. Am I Still a Woman? Hysterectomy and Gender Identity.Temple University Press, 2004

Kaufman, Miriam, Silverberg, Cory, and Odette, Fran. The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live with Disabilites, Chronic Pain, and Illness. Cleis Press, 2003.

Laken, Keith and Virginia. Making Love Again: Hope for Couples Facing Loss of Sexual Intimacy. Ant Hill Press, 2002. One couples story of how their sex lives survived radical prostectomy.

Mona, Lisa R. “Sexual Options for People with Disabilities; Using Personal Assistance Services for Sexual Expression,” published in Women with Visible and Invisible Disabilities: Multiple Intersections, Multiple Issues, Multiple Therapies. Haworth Press, 2003.

Schover, Leslie. Sexuality and Fertility After Cancer. Wiley. New York, 1997.

Medication and sexuality:

Segraves, Robert Taylor and Balon, Richard. Sexual Pharmacology Fast Facts. Norton, 2003.

Menopause:

Northrup, Christiane. The Wisdom of Menopause. Bantam Doubleday Dell Publishers, 2001.

Motherhood and sexuality:

Semans, A. and Winks, C. The Mother’s Guide to Sex: Enjoying your Sexuality through All Stages of Motherhood. Three Rivers. New York, 2001.

Oral Sex:

Blue, Violet. The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio: How to go down on a man and give him mind-blowing pleasure. Cleis Press, San Francisco, 2002. The title speaks for itself.

Blue, Violet. The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus: How to go down on a woman and give her exquisite pleasure. Cleis Press, 2002. Title also self-evident.

Kerner, Ian. She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. Souvenir Press, 2004.

Orgasm:

Blank, Joani. First Person Sexual.  Down There Press, 1996. This is a collection of masturbation stories by men and women.

Dodson, Betty. Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving. Three Rivers Press. New York, 1996. Dr. Dodson is considered the mother of masturbation.  She has been actively involved in “liberating masturbation” for over 30 years.  She lectures, does private instruction and did group workshops for several years.  Her open, humorous approach to masturbation has encouraged hundreds of people to learn how to pleasure themselves.

Heart, Mikaya. When the Earth Moves: Women and Orgasm. Celestial Arts, 1998. THE book for anyone who wants to understand what orgasm is like for women.

Heiman, Julia R., and Lopiccolo, Joseph. Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women, Revised and Expanded Edition. Fireside Books, New York, 1988.

Sex and the Internet:

Cooper, A. Sex and the Internet: A Guidebook for Clinicians. Brunner-Routledge, New York, 2002.

Cooper, A. Cybersex: The Dark Side of the Force. Brunner-Routledge, 2000.

Sexual abuse and recovery:

Haines, Staci. The Sexual Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Childhood Sexual Abuse. Cleis Press. San Francisco, 1999. This book is unique in that it combines tangible steps towards recovery with information about healthy sexual functioning giving the reader hope that they can be sexual again and enjoy it.

Maltz, Wendy. Incest and Sexuality: A Guide to Understanding and Healing. Lexington Books, 1987.

Malz, Wendy. The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse. Harper Collins.

Zoldbrod, Aline P. Sex Smart: How Your Childhood Shaped Your Sexual life and what to do about it. New Harbinger Publications. Oakland, CA, 1998

Sexual Dysfunction:

Berman, Jennifer and Berman, Laura. For Women Only: A Revolutionary Guide to Overcoming Sexual Dysfunction and Reclaiming your Sex Life. Henry Holt and Company, New York, 2001.

Glazer, Howard I.and  Rodke, Gae. The Vulvodynia Survival Guide: How to Overcome Painful Vaginal Symptoms & Enjoy an Active Lifestyle. New Harbinger, 2002.

Goodwin, A. J. and Agronin, M.E.A Woman’s Guide to Overcoming Sexual Fear and Pain. New Harbinger Publications, 1997.  A workbook format for overcoming pain and fear related to sexual dysfunction.

Katz, D. and Tabisel, R. L. Private Pain: It’s about Life, Not Just Sex. Understanding Vaginismus and Dyspareunia.  Kromar Printing.

, 2002.

Stewart, M.D.,

. The V Book: A Doctor’s Guide to Complete Vulvovaginal Health. Bantam Books, 2002. One of the best medical references available on women’s sexual health.

Weeks, Gerald R., Gambescia, Nancy. Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder: Integrating Sex and Couple Therapy. W.W. Norton & Co., 2002.

Sex Therapy:

Kaplan, Helen Singer. Sexual Aversion, Sexual Phobias, and Panic Disorder. Brunner/Mazel Publishers, 1987.

Kaplan, Helen Singer. Disorders of Sexual Desire. Brunner/Mazel Publishers, 1979.

Kaplan, Helen Singer. The Evaluation of Sexual Disorders: Psychological and Medical Aspects. Brunner/Mazel Publishers, 1983.

Kaplan, Helen Singer. The Illustrated Manual of Sex Therapy. Second Edition. Brunner/Mazel Publishers, 1987.  Dr. Kaplan dedicated this book to Aphrodite – enough said.

Kaplan, Helen Singer. The New Sex Therapy: Active Treatment of Sexual Dysfunction. Brunner/Mazel Publisher, 1987.

Spicing things up: fantasy, role play, erotic talk:

Addington, Deborah. Fantasy Made Flesh The Essential Guide to Erotic Roleplay

Blue, Violet. The Ultimate Guide to Adult Videos: How to Watch Adult Videos and Make Your Sex Life Sizzle. Cleis Press, 2003.

Corn, Laura. 101 Nights of Grrreat Sex: Secret Sealed Seductions for Fun-Loving Couples.

Gabriel, Bonnie. The Fine Art of Erotic Talk: How to Entice, Excite, and Enchant Your Lover with Words. Bantam, 1996.

Hooper, Anne. Anne Hooper’s Kama Sutra.Doring Kindersley, 1998.

Lotney, Karlyn. The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex: A Complete Resource for Women and Men. Cleis Press, 2000.

Love, Dr. Patricia and Robinson, Jo. Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking. Plume Books, 1999.

Queen, Carol Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up, and Talk Hot. Down There Press, 1995

Spirituality and sexuality:

Bonheim, J. Aphrodite’s daughter: women’s sexual stories and the journey of the soul. Fireside,

Lacroix. Nitya. The Art of Tantric Sex. DK Publishing, 1997. Beautifully illustrated with clear instructions, this is a wonderful Tantric resource.

Haffner, D. A Time To Speak: Sexuality Education and Faith Communities. SIECUS. New York, 1999.

Muir, Charles and Carolyn. The Art of Conscious Loving. Mercury House, 1990. Of the Tantric instructors, the Muirs are the most accessible. They bring their weekend workshop to Houston

each Spring.

Substance Use/Abuse and sexuality:

Kettelhack, Guy. How to Make Love While Conscious: Sex and Sobriety. Hazelden Books, 1993. Hard to find but worth the search.

Transgender/Transsexual:

 Bornstein, K. Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women, and the rest of us. Vintage Books, 1995.

Bornstein, K. My Gender Workbook. Routledge, 1998.

Boylan, Jennifer Finney. She’s Not There: A Life in Two Genders. Broadway Books, 2003.

Brown, Mildred L. and Rounsely, Chloe Ann. True Selves: Understanding Transsexualism. For Families, Friends, Coworkers, and Helping Professionals. Jossey-Bass, 2003.

Burke, P. Gender Shock: Exploding the Myths of Male and Female. Anchor Books, 1996.

Califia, P. Sex Changes: The Politics of Transgenderism. Cleis Press, 1997.

Cromwell, J. Transmen & FTMs: Identities, Bodies, Genders & Sexualities., University of Illinois Press, 1999.

Feinberg, Leslie. Stone Butch Blues. Firebrand Books, 1996.

Feinberg, L.. Transgender Warriors: Making History from Joan of Arc to Dennis Rodman. Beacon Press, 1996.

Feinberg, L. Transliberation: Beyond Pink and Blue. Beacon Press, 1998.

Halberstam, J. Female Masculinity. Duke University Press, 1998.

 Israel, G. Transgender Care: Recommended Guidelines, Practical Information, and Personal Accounts. Temple University Press, 1998.

Kirk, S. Feminizing Hormonal Therapy for the Transgendered. Together Lifeworks, 1999.

Lev, A. I. Transgender Emergence: Therapeutic Guidelines for Working with Gender-Variant People and their Families. Haworth Press, 2004.

Morris, Jan. Conundrum: An Extraordinary Personal Narrative of Transsexualism. Harcourt Brace, 1974.

Peters, J.A. Luna. Megan Tingley, 2004.

Scholinski, D. The Last Time I Wore a Dress. Riverhead Books, 1997.